What's Your Fantasy
Good morning, my Lovelies! I hope your Thursday is glorious and gets you revved for the weekend to come. I find that I have been somewhat revved all week. It all started Monday morning when I found myself perusing several of my favorite websites in search of inspiration.
You see, as a writer, I look for inspiration and motivation anywhere I can find it. Monday morning found me checking out new lingerie and sex toys for that inspiration and motivation. (It worked in more ways than one.) But as I was going through page after page of all manner of goodies, it occurred to me that I've had several friends ask me for recommendations of items to enhance their sexual pleasure. And it hasn't just been my female friends, either.
Now to some of y'all, it may seem weird to ask ME for recommendations, but not once did I think anything of it. In fact, I find that I'm somewhat flattered that my friends not only felt I had knowledge or experience enough to share my thoughts and opinions on these things, but that they felt comfortable enough with our relationship that they could come to me to discuss a sensitive (and to some, embarrassing) topic.
Obviously, talking about sex and sexual matters isn't a problem for me given the genre I work with, and I've always found it interesting how our physical, mental, and sexual health are so closely tied together. You see, if we neglect one of those areas, there is potential for that neglect to spread, and the effects can be devastating, to say the least. And if we don't take care of our needs, it can damage not only our own well-being, but the well-being of our relationships. Being healthy is about so much more than just the physical element!
When it comes to sex, I'm a firm believer that as long as it is consensual, do what you need to do to meet those needs; explore, play, get creative. Want to be restrained, or feel a little pain? Go for it. You want to wear skimpy lingerie or outfits for bondage? Have at it. You want to do things so much more kinky than that? DO IT! You do you, Boo! Because, how will you know what brings you pleasure and fulfillment until you try?
And, please, please don't feel as if you're less or you have failed if you find that your explorations didn't bring you the desired results. Because until you try, you're not going to know if what you have built up in your mind is the same as the reality. Also, and I can't say this enough, talk to your partner first. Communication is imperative! Some surprises are good. Some? Not so much. But if you talk things over, who knows? Maybe you'll find that they've been wanting to get creative, too!
Now, as I've said before, I pride myself on my ability to make long and lasting friendships. My revelation Monday morning added another layer to that pride and pleased me more than I can express to you. Please know that if you come to me discuss anything of this nature (or anything else you need to discuss), our conversations will be held in the strictest of confidence.
And believe me when I tell you that nothing, NOTHING you say to me about what you're looking for or why, is going to freak me out. Believe me when I tell you that between my own experiences and things I have seen, heard, and read about, not much phases me! We all have certain appetites and as long as it isn't something illegal (goes without saying, but for clarity purposes, there ya go), you're welcome to share your wants and desires with me.
Hell, you may even spark something to go in my next book!
As always,
Much love from me to you!
Shelly (a/k/a Dawn Love)
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