Dirty Mind

Good afternoon, my Lovelies!

I am deep into writing the third book in my Mountain Mayhem series but I needed to come up for air. I keep hitting crossroads with this story and am questioning whether I've taken the correct path or not. I would love to dive into another story for a bit to see if I can let this one rest and unfold for me, but I'm afraid if I do I'll not meet my deadline.

(BTW, the next time any of you hear me talking about putting a book up for preorder that I've not written yet, grab me and shake some sense into me. Okay?)

Being able to bounce back and forth between stories usually helps me, but I could totally see myself getting sucked in and pushing this story to the side. So, anyway...

How y'all doin'? Y'all good? Enjoying your new year so far? Getting some fresh air? Drinking your water? Taking care of your mental health?

It's that last one that has been getting me lately, but I really don't want to talk about that today. Nope! Today I want to talk about the kink and BDSM you see (or are beginning to see) play out in my books.

There are some of you who follow me who will never understand the appeal of any of that. There are some of you who are perfectly happy living a mostly vanilla lifestyle. That's great! You do you!

But I want to make it clear that no matter what, if you follow me, I will not tolerate you yucking on someone else's yum on any of my posts on any of my social media accounts. Just because you don't want it or don't understand it, doesn't make it wrong. Please accept that everyone has different appetites and it isn't our place to judge.

Now, all that being said, thanks to another author friend I have discovered a new name for the kink and BDSM I write into my stories. I think it is very fitting for my books and I like the way it sounds. What is that?

Cozy Kink.

What does that mean? It means that my characters have discussed their likes and dislikes in the bedroom. They've agreed on what is acceptable. They've agreed on what isn't acceptable. (Well, with the exception of that one scene in Across the Miles, but there WAS discussion afterward and an acceptable outcome for both parties.) It means my characters are in or will be in a very loving relationship. They care about each other. It's the sweeter side of spice!

It also means there isn't any 'darkness' in these stories. No fucking someone with a knife handle, a gun, or putting someone in a dangerous situation just to fuck them while they're afraid. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dark or morally gray romance books - I quite enjoy reading them! It's just not what I write.

I've done research, both in and out of the bedroom. No, I'll not share what, where, when, or with whom. As open as I am there are some things I like to keep to myself.

What you're going to find in my books is consensual. The players in these scenes are in some sort of relationship or WILL be in some sort of relationship with each other. There will be toys and other objects used - vibrators, floggers, bindings, butt plugs, nipple clamps, heat, ice... Pretty much, you name it, and I might throw it in there.

There may very well even be some scenes that seem gross to some of you. But for every one of you who might not enjoy whatever that particular scene entails, there will likely be two or three of you who DO enjoy it.

All I can tell you is you can either read the scene and move on, skip those scenes altogether, or you can close the book and not read. That's your choice and I'm fine either way.

Most of the time if I'm writing kink into a scene, it is going to be between two people who seriously care about each other, who want their partner to get what they need from a session. Most of the men I've written lean toward being pleasure-dominant. They want to bring their lover to orgasm as many times as possible and they get off on it. Most of the women I write have had to be strong too damn long and they enjoy letting go and having someone else take control of the reins for a bit.

Now, that's not to say I won't switch things up from time to time. I like to keep things interesting, after all. Also, if I ever get my ass in gear and open up that other pen name, there is going to be some major kink in and out of relationships that might not be so geared toward the 'cozy' side of things.

Anyway, I want to make certain that you all know I'm trying my best to be hyperaware of any potential triggers for people. I started putting a "What you should know before you read" at the front of all my books with a list of content tropes and possible triggers. Not everyone needs this but some do and I prefer to protect my readers.

If ever you feel I missed something that could potentially be a trigger, I beg you to please reach out to me and share your concerns. I always try to respond to messages. (Unless I think you're a spammer, scammer, or bot. LOL)

Quickly, before I go, in case you haven't seen already, I have moved all my books into the Kindle Unlimited program. Please, if you haven't read any of my books yet and are a KU user, go give me a read!

Spicy, sweet, sexy romance stories with heart, at your service!

Until next time and as always,

Much love and kinky play from me to you,

Shelly (a/k/a Dawn Love)

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